Table of Contents

Question # 1-3 What is gender, how is it decided, is choosing your gender a sin

Question #4-8 Loving someone that is different than me, disagreement, and loving someone who is in sin

Question # 9-10 Dealing with idols

Question # 11 Are video games good or bad?

Question # 12- I don’t  think I am a Christian, what can I do?

Question # 1- What is gender?

As a Christian, we know that gender is what makes you a boy or a girl. It is a gift that God has given you, before you were born. He made you either male or female, (Genesis 1:27, Matthew 19:4, Jeremiah 1:5).

    Question # 2- How is gender decided?

It has been decided by God, (Gen 1:27, Matthew 19:4, Jeremiah 1:5). When people decide to change what gender God has given them, they are not following His design. They are doing what they want, (Romans 1:18-32). 

Question # 3- Is choosing your own gender a sin?

Choosing your own gender is one sin among many sins. If you think about it, sin is doing what we want rather than what God has designed us to do, (Exodus 20:3-6, 1 John 5:21). All humans are guilty of this, even if we don’t see it at first. It is called idolatry. If anyone knowingly continues in idolatry, they will not be in Heaven, instead they will end up in Hell, (1 Corinthians 6:9–10, Galatians 5:19–21, Ephesians 5:5, 1 Timothy 1:9, Hebrews 12:14, Revelation 22:15). 

Everyone of us needs the Savior, Jesus Christ, (Romans 6:23, Romans 10:9-10, John 3:16, Acts 4:12) to keep from going to Hell. God does not want any of us to be separated from Him in Hell. He wants us all to be saved, (1 Timothy 2:4).

Question # 4- How do I love someone that is different from me?

Loving someone that is different from you is something God tells us to do. It doesn't matter if they are our relative, a friend or enemy or a stranger, we should treat everyone with kindness and respect, (John 15:12, Luke 6:7-38 Colossians 3:12, Prov 16:23-24, 1 Cor 13:4). We love because He loved us first! (1 John 4:19). One way is to speak kindly. If we disagree, we will do it in a gentle and compassionate way. (Prov 16:23-24, Eph 4:1-2, 32). Another way is we can do acts of kindness for them, (Philippians 2:4).

Question # 5: What are some starting words or phrases I can use in a kind way when I disagree with someone?

Some examples, based on (1 Peter 3:15-16) are: 

Question # 6: I was kind when I disagreed with someone, but now I am finding out, they just want to argue, or are fine with what they think. When we keep talking about it we both get frustrated. What should I do?

Yes, there are many times when even when you disagree, there is no change, and sometimes a friendship can be strained, like Paul and Barnabas when they disagreed on if John Mark, also called Mark, should go on a missionary trip, (Acts 15:36-41). Ask your parents, your situation requires specific answers. If you are a Christian parent you know, it may be time to let that disagreement go and agree to disagree. True change, if it is in God’s will, is when the Holy Spirit convicts, (John 16:8), which makes a person experience godly grief, ( 2 Cor 7:9-10). 

Remember, God can use your kind words, and we should be prepared to share, (1 Peter 3:15-16). We find that after some time, Paul and Barnabas and John Mark reconcile, as Paul speaks kindly of both men again, (2 Tim 4:11, 1 Cor 9:6). 

If you are looking for a gracious way to exit a disagreement with someone you could use these: