Laura and Max. Your mom and I have decided to get to a divorced.

What is a divorce?

What? When?

Why?

A divorce that means your mom and your dad won't be staying together any more. They do not necessary hate each other. They've tried to work as a team called wife and husband many times but it didn't work out. So, they decided do thing separately from now on.

Smart wolf, My parents will divorce. Is this my fault or my brother's?

Some human parents divorce because they think they can do better when they live and do things separately. So, the divorce isn't anyone's fault. If someone tells you otherwise, then he or she is wrong!

You must say, "It's not anyone's fault."

The point 1.

Divorce is no one's fault. Especially, it is never be a fault of children!

Your parents always love you and your sibling. But, human dad is afraid you may love your mom more than him and mom is afraid you may love your dad more than her. Some parents don't understand their kids love both of them equally.

I love both my dad and mom. I feel sad they don't love each other anymore. But, Do they still love me?

Point 2.

Parents always love you. Only the parents who don't love their children are emotionally ill. Your parents always love you and your sister for the rest of your life the same way as you love them. Some moms and dads divorce if they need to, but parents and their children don't divorce.

My friend asked me where do I live when my parents divorce. I said I don't know. Where do we live when our parents divorce? Do they abandon us?

Max and I can live together?

Point 3.

Your parents discuss and decide your living arrangement with the help of a lawyer. The lawyer is a law expert. Usually, you and your brother live with either your mom or dad. For example, if they decided you live with your mom, your dad will visit you in weekends or if you live with your dad, your mom will visit you in weekends. They'll inform you of the living arrangement and the parent visit schedule once they decide them.

Lately, I feel frustrated, irritated and angry. I feel sad and alone. And, my parents fight sometimes and Laura cries. I feel like I want to cry but I'm older than Laura, so I don't cry. I don't want to go school. I know my parents divorce because they don't love each other anymore and it's better for them to live and do things separately. But it seems, they are too busy to care of our feelings. I don't want to understand why my parents need divorce now.

IMPORTANT

You must meet the school counselor and speak to him or her about how you feel and think regard your parents' divorce as soon as possible. The school counselor will listen to you without judgment. The school counselor helps you and your siblings to cope negative feelings and thoughts. Sometimes, the school counselor refers you, your siblings and your parents to another counselor who specialize to help parents and their children who go through divorce. This counselor is called a marriage and family counselor.